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Just as much as we would like to be sensitized about the importance of giving, we too have to learn how to be a gracious receiver. The challenge is that while some people are cheerful givers, they are bad receivers. They tend to refuse gifts due to various absurd reasons (e.g. pride), thereby blocking their channels to success as they find themselves eventually with little or nothing.
A balance should be maintained between giving and receiving. In fact you can simply practice gratitude in your life just by being a gracious receiver. Learn to appreciate yourself better by allowing yourself to receive whatever that comes to you, since they are what you truly deserve in life. This is the Law of Attraction in operation!
Do you not feel good whenever you give something to someone? If that’s the case, why deny others of a chance for feeling the same way by refusing their gifts? While it is fine for you to give and others to receive, you cannot expect to not receive and have the law of reciprocity be denied.
Remember: Whenever a person offers you a gift, accept and receive it with grace and appreciation. Be reminded of the law of reciprocity which is ever in operation and there is a reason for you being presented with the gift!
Have you ever wondered what makes a difference between a couple who enjoys a long-lasting and fulfilling relationship and one who doesn’t? Here are the keys to building a robust and rewarding relationship with your significant other, the way for you to truly date your dreams:
First there must be an open demonstration of commitment to make a relationship work. In any intimate relationship, a couple must be constantly proactive and creative in nurturing and building their relationship into that which is their hearts’ desires and expectations. Both of them must constantly strive and work at their relationship, giving themselves completely to ensure its success.
Time is of essence when it comes to building a long lasting relationship. Every available time and opportunity must be judiciously utilized in adding value and moving the relationship constantly to a higher level. When you are no longer putting in any effort to improve your relationship with your partner, it can only begin to deteriorate. To consistently work on making the relationship even better is the key to “maintaining” the relationship.
Communication is a major factor in building a rewarding relationship that lasts. Lovers should constantly develop a better understanding of their partners, finding out what they need and value most. Moreover there is the verbal way and the non-verbal way of communication. You can communicate through a touch when close, sms and mobile chat, emails, buying and sending gifts and presents etc.
Understanding one another no matter the circumstance whatsoever is critical when it comes to building a sturdy relationship. This not only increases the chances of oneness between a couple, it helps reduce friction and equally serves to promote peace and harmony.
Finally failure is often the mother of all success. It usually takes an adversity to test how strong and sturdy a relationship really is. This is when the couple in a relationship should avoid procrastinating and come together quickly in resolving any issues.
Genuine love will make you go the extra mile in seeking for the good, the better and the best for your relationship. It simply becomes a consuming passion with you to please and impress your significant other at all times and in every way possible.
Good luck!
“Miracles occur naturally as expressions of love. They are performed by those who temporarily have more for those who temporarily have less.”
“Perfect love casts out fear. If fear exists, then there is not perfect love.”
“Love will immediately enter into any mind that truly wants it.”
“You have so little faith in yourself because you are unwilling to accept the fact that perfect love is in you, and so you seek without for what you cannot find within.”
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
“Teach only Love, for that is what you are.”
(Quotes taken from Course in Miracles)
We all want to be happy and share our life with that special someone. We all desire a partner who truly loves, understands and cares about us. A divine relationship is that which makes our life complete, full and wonderful!
When you set an intention to “attract” what you desire in your soul-mate partner, the universe will respond to whatever you say, think, and believe. Here are some suggestions to get started in attracting divine relationship into your life:
1) Be as specific as possible when listing down the qualities that you intend your partner to possess. E.g. My partner is a sweet, gracious and kind hearted person. She is peaceful, happy and harmonious. She is faithful, loyal and true.
2) Focus on what you want instead of what you do not want. Never say, “My partner is not a poor and ugly man.” Instead affirm, “My partner is a rich and good looking person.” Whatever you constantly focus on tends to expand and becomes a reality. You want to ensure that you focus solely on the positive attributes that you want your divine partner to have.
3) Decide exactly what you want your relationship to be like. E.g. Affirm by saying, “This is divine relationship functioning through the personality of someone whom I perfectly blend. Only that which belongs to love, truth and beauty enters into this relationship.”
4) Feel and act as though your dream will eventually come true. In fact your dream has already “come true” the moment you intend it. It merely takes time to “manifest” and “reveal” itself in this relative world. Divine relationship has already been “awarded” to you!
5) Receive with gratitude. Be prepared to receive the good that you have asked for. Know that you rightfully deserve whatever you ask for, unless your requests are against the universal laws and principles. Constantly “be” and “vibrate” at the level of love, kindness and joy.
Until recently, I realised love could be so powerful. That was during my wedding in France in September last year. Here, love refers to love for family, love for friends, love for relatives and love for your lover.
I thought my relationship with my husband had never been easy. I am a 100% Chinese and he is a 100% French. Because of communication difficulty and cultural difference, my parents had always objected our relationship. Nonetheless I understood their concern well as they loved me. They were worried that I might get ‘hurt’.
My parents only speak Cantonese and my partner doesn’t speak a single word of Cantonese (except “hao mie” when praising my mom’s cooking or ‘zhao sen’). Not being able to speak each other’s language, action really matters.
You cannot speak but you can feel. Feeling is speechless.
On a Christmas Eve three years ago, my partner cooked a traditional French Christmas dinner at our tiny home in Hong Kong. French people use forks and knifes for meals but we didn’t have a single fork and knife at home. To our surprise, he bought forks and knifes and even wine glasses all the way from Singapore to Hong Kong. (He was living in Singapore and I was living in Hong Kong then.) This was a touching and thoughtful act that even my parents agreed.
With time, my parents accepted our relationship and even developed trust on us.
My parents rarely took planes. The only place that they had been outside Hong Kong was Singapore– after I moved to Singapore in August 2006. Their visit to Singapore was one of the sweetest gifts I could ask for. After Singapore, I wanted them to visit France.
During Christmas last year, we decided to get married in France in September this year. Now my parents had to come to witness our Big Day. But I always knew it would be a real challenge for them to take a plane for 13 hours and try adapting to an entirely new environment– foreign country, foreign people, foreign language and foreign culture.
Indeed, their presence in France was a result of their love for me. It’s the power of love.
During their time in France, it had never been easy. The way we eat (fork and knife versus chopsticks), the way we greet people (shaking hands versus kissing cheeks) and the food we ate (baguette versus rice) were all just different. It took some time for them to get used to every small different detail in our daily lives.
During my wedding at the City Hall of Chauny, my sister gave a speech. She said: “I always love my sister. Each time I am down, I would read my sister’s online diary. She is ever so cheerful and optimistic. She cheers me up.”
At that moment, she broke down into tears. I cried too. Since I moved to Singapore in 2006, I had not spoken to my sister as often as before. I can never forget how we have always been like best friends, ever supportive of each other. I later promised that I would continue to be a happy and supportive sister.
I truly treasured the two weeks that my family spent in France for my wedding. It was a memorable moment when the five of us (my dad, mom, brother, sister and myself) were living together for two entire weeks.
Love is powerful. Love changes everything. Everything becomes possible because of love.
I love my family, my friends and my partner.
(Contributed by Sally Yip, a Hong Konger who is enjoying and exploring her life in Singapore)
To be attuned to the Divine will is the most important factor in attracting success. When human will is misguided, even success brings sorrow and little happiness. Far too often, we are so engrossed with what we are habitually doing, practicing motivation blindly, that we end up at a destination where we don’t even belong!
Living in today’s fast-pace and information-dense society, people need to be motivated constantly to work harder, longer and better. Moreover we are continuously bombarded with a wide array of motivational tools, including audio tapes, books, seminars etc. Though they may seem helpful to us in a certain way, we have been more often “blindly motivated” and led towards the “wrong” path. That’s where we begin to lose track of our true sense of purpose in life, failing to recognize and realize where our true talent and passion lie.
To be attuned to the divine will, is to understand what we are here for, and to know what we are here to contribute. This will often be closely related to our passion and/or what we are naturally talented at. It is only when intention is fused with passion, mission, vision and action, that our commission is realized!
1) What am I truly passionate about in life?
2) What am I here to contribute? What is my mission in life?
3) What is the vision that I have created for myself, for the people around me, and possibly for the entire world?
4) Am I prepared to take persistent, consistent and massive actions towards the realization of my dream?
5) Setting intention. Meditate constantly for divine guidance. (Ask and it shall be given. Seek and you shall find)
“I’m pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn’t been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith. I’m convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.”
(Abstract taken from the Commencement Address by Steve Jobs)
What must happen in order for you to be happy? What must you achieve for you to feel happy? Is it necessary for something to happen on the outside before you “attain” happiness?
The truth is: happiness is not something to be attained. It is something that we just simply have to let out, to realize, or to be!
Who are the happiest people on Earth? They are people who choose to be happy, regardless of what is taking place in their external environment. People who are always happy also tend to understand the power of gratitude. Instead of constantly moaning and grumbling about what they are “deprived” of or “lack” in life, they are always grateful about what they do have and currently possess.
Be happy by choosing to be happy! Be a happy person who constantly brings forth and practices what is best in you. Happiness and virtue complement each other. Reveal the Christ/Buddha nature in you, for God is the highest and best in you. As you express more of God’s love, kindness, light, truth, abundance, and beauty to the universe and the people around you, you will become one of the happiest persons on Earth today!
